The 'let him drive' point is interesting. This is the rub between Owen and I. I always think that I will adjust behavior problems by taking away what I perceive as excessive autonomy or freedom that is making him big in his britches. But it's a delicate dance to figure out when to actually give more of the wheel to ease the tension over who's in control. I've never been a good dancer.
Quick Guide to Parenting Boys
Their Identity is tied to the questions:
Am I man enough?
Am I up to the challenge?
Solutions:
Sleep
Exercise (including team sports)
Hard Work
Fresh air and Sunshine
Mothers and Sons:
The DO NOTS:
Do not nag
Do not moralize/spiritualize
Do not make it personal
Do not remove challenges from your son’s life.
The Dos:
Be a Strong Woman (Contemplate the word ‘impervious’)
Teach your son to laugh at himself
Let him fail
Give him responsibility
Need him
Provide challenges
Listen to him/Let him drive
Pray for him
Respect him.
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